In a world that seems obsessed with youth, women of a certain age often find themselves at the receiving end of unsolicited comments, judgmental stares, and social media ridicule. From politicians to online trolls, these groups seem determined to age-shame, targeting mature women for their appearance, attire, and even mental acuity. Society seems to have little tolerance for the natural progression of an aging woman’s appearance.
Age-shaming, the insidious act of making someone feel inadequate due to their age, is an unacceptable form of bullying that persists in our society. Instead of celebrating the wisdom and experience that come with age, women are blatantly scolded online for their clothing choices, their wrinkles, and the audacity to accept aging gracefully. The insults are appalling and meant to shame women into looking and acting what others think is appropriate for “their age.”
This form of bullying is not limited to the virtual world. Celebrities, often held up as paragons of ageless beauty, further contribute to unrealistic standards for everyday women. These rich and famous women are used to encourage middle-aged women to strive for the so-called ‘perfect’ body, ‘flawless’ skin, and an ‘eternal’ youthfulness, which can be misleading. This celebrity comparison age-defying illusion doesn’t have much inclusion in the realities of everyday women who lack the means to undergo drastic cosmetic alterations.
But here’s the truth: we don’t need to change society’s opinions. That is not our job. Our focus should be on cultivating self-acceptance and embracing the natural progression of our lives.
Aging is a blessing, a stage denied to many, and we are fortunate and blessed to stand on this platform right now.
To those who are victims of age-shaming, we say, “Ignore the haters.” Do not let these insecure people deny you the self-confidence that you deserve.
Nobody should be given permission to make you feel less validated for anything related to age or body shape, let alone an aging mind that is filled with wisdom, knowledge, and experience.
As life becomes more complex with age, juggling roles as moms, caretakers, and breadwinners, we may feel the weight of societal expectations and the creeping sense of invisibility. Age shaming exacerbates these challenges, affecting midlife women’s self-esteem and mental health. The pressure to conform to traditional media narratives is intense, but the power lies in rejecting these expectations.
So, what can an evolving sister do to challenge societal norms and break free from the chains of ageism? Girl, go live your life!
- Scatter the Shame! Don’t ever let anyone make you feel ashamed due to your age. Own it with pride.
- Empower Yourself: Age should never be a barrier to you doing what you want to do.
- No Explanation Needed: You owe no one an explanation for your choices, be it what you are wearing, how you wear it, or your lifestyle.
- Comparison is the Thief of Joy: Do not compare yourself to other women. Your journey is uniquely yours.
- Unfiltered Reality: Understand that filtered images create unrealistic standards. Embrace your authentic self.
- Reality Check: Know that celebrities have access to resources and finances that you may not have. Some of those same people are living a filtered life of fame. Remember, you’re beautiful in your authenticity.
So, dear evolving sister, go forth and live your life unapologetically. Defy the age-shaming narrative with the confidence that comes from self-acceptance. Your age is not a limitation; it’s a badge of honor.
Please continue to check in with us as we help you embrace aging with style and grace. We will continue to provide you with content, encouragement, and motivation to be the you that you are meant to be.