Yes, it is so true! I am very excited and proud to be Sixty, Single, Satisfied, and Carefree in 2019! Instead of fearing sixty; I am embracing this new journey with confidence and joy. I look at this moment as a wonderful time to focus, reflect and create life experiences that I have been looking forward to! I have actually made a list of sixty things to do this year! 2019 will be a year long celebration for me!
My besties, who are my nearest and dearest sister friends, insist that I must have that special someone. In fact, it is quite interesting to hear them go on and on over my having someone. I love my sisters dearly and I know that they want me to be happy and not alone. However, there is a huge difference between loneliness and alone. According to Merriam-Webster’s dictionary, “loneliness” is defined as – sad from being alone. Oxford’s dictionary definition of “alone” is defined as – being on one’s own. Well, I am definitely not sad or lonely. Needless to say, I am at peace with being alone and content. I call this my “Me Time”. It’s my time to renew my mind, body, soul and spirit.
You see, after caring for my mother for fourteen years (she passed away five years ago) and two years ago my long-term relationship with my significant other came to an end; I have begun to exhale and come into my own self. It is during this time that I developed confidence, found joy, strength, and a strong sense of spirituality. Truth be told, I feel amazing at this stage of my life!
I always say it is important to “Know Thy Self”. How well do you know thy self? At this stage in my life personally and professionally, I know what I like and what I do not like. What I am willing to tolerate and what I will not tolerate. I refuse to settle. This all comes from my own life experiences. I have come to realize my own limitations. Most importantly, I have learned not to compare myself to others when it comes to relationships or anything else in life. I am happy being carefree and me!
With all this being said, I have not given up on meeting that special someone. I figure when and if that time happens, wonderful! Some have asked would I consider online dating or dating someone from another ethnic group. I believe in keeping my options open. I do know friends and co-workers that have tried online dating. The results have ranged from horror stories to successful marriages. There are positives and negatives to everything in life. It is about taking that leap of faith. In the meantime, I will keep you all posted if I meet that special someone whether it is through online dating, another culture, grocery store, etc… Oh, I do not do blind dates (smile)!
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By Jarene Barnes, contributing and caregiver advocate