
It was August 2008, when I decided to go natural. It wasn’t a big chop …it was an evolving process. I just trimmed when needed until all of the relaxer was eventually removed.
I remember going to the stores to find every product that I thought could take my hair from just a simple fro to a personalized curly style. I would buy the full haircare system. No, you couldn’t just purchase one product…the ads suggested that consumers would get a better result if they used the whole system.
I must have purchased 5 or 6 different systems. I was concerned that the stores would not take them back after returning so many.
It was frustrating. No matter how hard I tried my natural hair just didn’t seem as if it was ready to make a public appearance.

I watched several YouTube channels and TikTok videos. I tried twist-outs, Bantu knots, a wash and go…you name it.
The one thing I realized was that our hair has different textures and we can’t expect to get the same results as the ladies in the video that we love so much. I did have my favorite YouTube hair influencers.
I recall being so frustrated because I felt I should know how to style the natural hair that was growing out of my hair. Be patient and know that establishing your own signature natural look may be a process.
Like a lot of middle-aged women, my hair is thinning with age. I also have a few bald spots that are a result of using a product from a company that was being sued at the time.
I believe I finally found a routine that works for me. I wash it once a week, oil my scalp twice a week, and spray with water and MSM about 3 times a week. I call it my 3-Step program. There is so much advice out on the worldwide web; be careful. You have to experiment to see what works for you.
When it comes to our hair, we are on information overload.
I finally found the perfect product to achieve my desired curl pattern.
Here is the shampoo and conditioner:
Shampoo: OLAPLEX Bond Maintenance
Conditioner: OLAPLEX Bond Maintenance Conditioner